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“Being kind is not about suppressing your anger. Being kind is a lot more than just being polite. Its an inner knowing of who you truly are and whats good for you. You can say a few nice words to someone and then go about cursing them the whole day. Thats not how the magic happens. The magic lies within you. When you choose to love yourself more when you are angry, you are slowly releasing all the bitter feelings. When you are angry, you deserve more love not less. When someone blames or criticises you, you deserve more love not less. No matter what, you always deserve more love not less. And when you give yourself all of that love, you realise that you cant help being kind. They may have done you wrong and by no means are their deeds justified, but if you respond back with anger and hate, you too are causing harm to yourself. When you practice kindness in anger, you become polite in interaction and bold in action. Bold actions can only be taken once you set yourself free of all drama and trauma. And the only thing that will set you free is KINDNESS.”
Arjun put aside Dr. Lizzy’s book and took a deep breath.
“Its not that easy to love yourself when all you want to do is yell and scream and make the other person suffer just as they made you suffer,” he thought remembering the afternoon incident when his ex-boss had stepped into the Bloomwick candle store and called him a failure in front of everyone. He had responded politely by asking his boss to let him continue his workshop but that didnt make him feel any better. He was angry, very angry and now all this anger was turning into bitterness.
“I deserve more love not less,” he silently whispered to himself.
“So then why dont you join me tonight,”said Vivan who had heard him whispering,” Its not right to decline an invitation. Diya and Nisha will be pretty upset about it.”
“I am sorry,” said Arjun,” but I am in a really bad mood today. I dont think I will be able to say anything nice to anyone.”
“And thats why this particular article of Nisha’s magazine is dedicated to people like you,” said Vivan forwarding his smartphone to Arjun.
Arjun gently took the phone from his hands and read silently.
” I lit two pumkin butter candles this morning and let me tell you, I literally felt my anger melting away. Now, before you all put aside my work saying this is what you already know, let me ask you one simple question. Do you feel angry or hurt? I know you do and its a feeling you so want to get rid of. But its all okay. Feelings are temprary, you know that. I do not light these candles because I can afford them. Even when I had very little money, I lit some incense instead. I light these candles to remind myself that because I am hurt and upset, I deserve to take care of myself even more. Why should I abandon myself just because someone feels that I am not good enough. Why should I even argue with them or curse them? My job is only to take care of myself. Thats it and thats what I am doing. I come home and create a beautiful and pleasant ambiance for myself because I know that I am worth it. I could have yelled at them, told them how wrong they are and some of you might even consider it as a way of standing up for yourself. But I am not up for anything which makes me feel worse. Yes, I do stand up for myself. But by my actions. My actions speak a lot about me. If someone feels that I am a failure, my actions will clear their doubts. But I will only be able to act from my highest potential when I am feeling better than I feel now. So thats why creating a cozy aromatic ambiance……………”
“And then she writes about different aromas, candles and so much more good stuff,” said Arjun leaning back on the sofa.
“So,” said Vivan taking the phone from his hands,” What do you think?”
“I am feeling really bitter,” said Arjun getting up from his seat,”but I will try.”